Reconciling to God and your family is very important. Why? Heaven is all about relationships! Think about it.
God promises that if you believe first, then He will bring understanding. The world wants it the other way around. John 10:38
As men, we bear a greater burden before God for the well-being of our families and our church. Our wives and children should flourish under our loving leadership.
By the grace of God, you can be who God has called you to be, do what God has called you to do, and love as God has loved you.
As men, we will never in this life experience perfection, but by the grace of God we can experience progress every day until we enter perfection in the life to come. So don’t sulk, don’t sin, and don’t settle, but instead strive.
Here are 11 practical tips for husbands to strive to lead their family well:
1. As the family leader, model humility, honesty, repentance, service, study, and worship. Your life preaches at least as loudly as your words, so teach and model humble godliness by the grace of God.
2. Make sure everyone in your family has a good, age-appropriate Bible that they regularly read. Read the Bible yourself and with them so they are encouraged to read on their own.
3. Make sure you have some basic Bible study tools available for your family in either print or digital form and that everyone learns to use them. If you do not know where to begin, ask your pastor or a godly student of Scripture in your church about things like a good Bible commentary, concordance, dictionary, and atlas.
4. Buy good Christian books for everyone in your family to read. Include Christian biographies among those books.
5. Choose good books that you and your wife can be reading together, including books of the Bible, and discuss what you are learning.
6. If there are Bible-based classes offered in your church, attend with your family.
7. Redeem your commute by listening to good sermons and classes, many of which you can download for free.
8. Have dinner together with your family most nights, and use that time to pray together, keep a journal log of prayer requests for other people, and read a portion of the Bible and talk about it together.
9. Pray for each member of your family every day and let them know you are praying for them.
10. Place a hand on the head of each of your children every day and pray over them. Then kiss them on the head and make sure they often get a loving hug.
11. While either snuggling or holding hands, pray with and for your wife every day and remember to include the reasons you are thankful to God for her that day. If these things have not been common in your home, it is very likely that your family has been aching for them and will be thankful for your loving leadership as the head of your home.
What ever happened to knowing your neighbor or just speaking to them as you both are outside doing your yard work? Do you even know who they are or even their names. What would happen if you brought over a fresh baked pie or, heaven forbid, invited them to your place for a glass of cold ice tea on a hot day?
As I was reading in my bible this morning I came across a verse in the book of Acts chapter 2 verse 45, that read: “So they sold there possessions and property and distributed the proceeds to all, as everyone has a need. And every day they devoted themselves to meeting together in the temple complex, and broke bread from house to house. They are their food with gladness and simplicity of heart, praising God and having favor with all the people. And every day the Lord added to them those who were being saved.”
I believe this community mindset is so scary for so many people. Most of us “hideout” in out little boxes that we have sweat blood to pay for and not really take the time to look up and down our own streets to see if there is a need out there that we can fill. I am guilty of that myself. How different would our world be if we trusted God to protect our “stuff” and held everything in an open hand so that God could take out and put in as He sees fit. I know for a fact that the stress of our financial world would dissipate in an instant. No more living in scarcity but in abundance. We might even get to know someone else s name.
Less is more! Right!
Wanting Gods Will
“Disappointment – His appointment,”
Change one letter, then I see
That the thwarting of my purpose
Is Gods better choice for me.
His appointment must be blessing,
Tho’ it may come in disguise,
For the end from the beginning
Open to His wisdom lies.
“Disappointment – His Appointment,”
No good will He withhold;
From denials oft we gather
Treasures of His love untold.
Well He knows each broken purpose
Leads to fuller, deeper trust,
And the end of all His dealings
Proves our God is wise and just.
”Disappointment – His Appointment,”
Lord, I take it, then, as such,
Like clay in hands of a potter,
Yielding wholly too Thy touch.
My life’s plan is Thy molding,
Not one single choice be mine;
Let me answer, unrepining-
“Father, not my will, but thine.”
(Self titled by Sean Stevenson)